We've all heard the phrase, "Hurt people, hurt people." It's true and I've been on both sides of that proverbial coin. I'm sure we all have. I have a soft spot for the broken, the hurting, the marginalized...the underdog. And I guess that's because I can identify on some level. ...that time I took "underdog"... Continue Reading →
It’s Not Me, It’s You
Or, that time my best friend broke up with me. Photo Credit At 30-something, it had become difficult to make new friends. Or rather, it had become difficult to forge meaningful and lasting friendships. I had a job that required a change of scenery every two years and by change of scenery, I mean a... Continue Reading →
10 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self
I don't think mom knew it was picture day. Still, I continue to sport a very similar hairdo. WFH much? Dear Younger Me, I don't know how much time we have together so I'm going to make this quick. I've watched you from afar. I've noticed the mistakes you've made, the heartbreak you've endured and... Continue Reading →
The Skinny
You might want to sit down for this one. It was two days before I was scheduled to depart for my dream job. I was having the time of life, celebrating the fact that I had traded in my Eddie Bauer Assistant Regional Manager name tag for a sharp skirt suit that I'd wear while... Continue Reading →
The Waiting Room
It was September of 2017 so you'll forgive me if there are large gaps in my memory - I can barely remember if I've had one or five cups of coffee (it was five. it was definitely five.) in the morning and now we're talking about something that happened almost four years ago. There are... Continue Reading →
Death and Exotic Dancing
I bet you're wondering where this is going. I bet it's also not at all headed in the direction you think. He told me he wished I had died. In a fury of text messages after telling him there was no possible way he could actually be in love with me - that it was... Continue Reading →
What’s Fair?
Moving forward when it seems like the bad guy won. To throw a pity party or march forward into this world of opportunity? Sometimes it feels almost gluttonous to ruminate over days gone by, circumstances out of your current control, situations and actions you can't undo....people you can't (and never could) control. Other times, it... Continue Reading →
So what, Now what?
Or, how to make big life decisions without hopping in the nearest life raft. How many of us are staring down the barrel of one (or more) of the biggest decisions of our lives? Which of you are contemplating dramatic changes that will alter the course of your future? Are you uncomfortable with the unknown?... Continue Reading →
Any therapist will tell you…
...there are five traumatic events that will push you to and sometimes past your limits. Death of a loved oneDivorceMovingMajor illness or injury Job loss There are variations of these, of course, and many more that arguably should exist on the "top five" but these are the stressful life events that I've heard most often.... Continue Reading →